Jun 2, 2026
One of the hardest questions you'll ever ask yourself isn't about property settlement, parenting arrangements or court.
It's much earlier than that. Should I stay or should I go?
In this first episode of our brand new series, The Legal Side of Separation, I'm joined by family lawyer Dani Zetzer from Respect Legal to explore the stage of separation that often gets overlooked the period where you're questioning everything but haven't yet made a final decision.
This episode is for anyone feeling stuck between staying and leaving, wondering whether their relationship can be repaired, questioning their own judgement, or trying to understand what their options actually are.
Together, Dani and I discuss why this stage requires a different type of support, when legal advice becomes important, and the red flags that shouldn't be ignored.
We also unpack coercive control, financial abuse, gaslighting, the myths people believe about lawyers and court, and the practical steps you can take whether you're planning to stay or preparing to leave.
Most importantly, we discuss how to make informed decisions from a place of knowledge rather than fear.
In this episode we discuss:
- Why the "should I stay or should I go?" stage needs different guidance than a decided separation;
- When seeking legal advice is appropriate and when it may not be;
- The truth about free legal consultations;
- How to choose the right support team around you;
- Why education before legal advice can be so valuable;
- Financial transparency and understanding the reality of your financial position;
- The risks of delaying important decisions;
- What "getting your ducks in a row" actually looks like;
- What coercive control is and how it can present in relationships;
- Gaslighting and the impact it can have on decision-making;
- Financial abuse red flags and warning signs;
- Why engaging a lawyer does not automatically mean going to court;
- How family law matters are resolved outside of court;
- Negotiating with high-conflict personalities and narcissistic traits;
- The June 2025 Family Law Act changes relating to family violence and property matters;
- The myth that leaving the family home means you lose your entitlement to it;
- Practical steps to consider if you are preparing to leave;
- Important considerations for parents navigating separation.
Key Takeaway
The legal side of separation doesn't begin when court proceedings start. It often begins much earlier when you're trying to understand your options, recognise unhealthy patterns, and make decisions about what comes next.
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Resources
If you are experiencing family violence, coercive control, financial abuse, or have concerns about your safety, please seek professional support immediately.
1800RESPECT
1800 737 732
Lifeline
13 11 14
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Guest: Danielle Zetzer, Lawyer, Founder of Respect Legal and Host of Diary of a Divorce Lawyer
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This episode is a collaboration with Respect Legal. If you’re enjoying this conversation and want to hear more from Dani Zetzer, listen to her podcast Diary of a Divorce Lawyer. If you are ready for legal advice, Dani leads a family law firm, Respect Legal. The team at Respect Legal are modern divorce lawyers putting the humanity back into family law — one client at a time. They will help you make empowered legal decisions that support life beyond separation. Respect by name. Respectful by nature. If you want modern, respectful legal advice visit Respect Legal.
Disclaimer
I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored.