Jan 21, 2026
Some of the hardest days after separation aren’t the days where everything falls apart.
They’re the days that look “fine” on paper — birthdays, Christmas morning, school milestones, first days back — and yet I still feel that sting afterwards.
In this episode, I’m talking about why milestone days can hurt more than you expect, especially when social media tells the story first. Not because a photo is “wrong”… but because the timing, the caption, and the implied narrative can leave you feeling edited out of your child’s life.
This isn’t petty. It’s grief meeting visibility. And it’s more common than people admit.
In this episode, I cover:
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Why special occasions after separation can feel heavier than ordinary days;
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The difference between missing a moment and being missing from the story;
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How “posting” becomes a proxy fight for identity, belonging, and being seen as a parent;
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What kids absorb from adult emotion around photos, captions, and visibility;
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Practical social media boundaries that reduce conflict and protect children.
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Disclaimer
I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored.